Making Time for Retreat: The “Good Person” Syndrome

Posted August 31st, 2010 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration, Making Life Changes, Photography, Images

Windsurfer, Martha's Vineyard, early evening

"Martha's Vineyard, Early Evening Windsurfer" copyright 2010, Heidi Straube

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I wrote this article a couple of years ago…but thought it was time to revisit it. With Labor Day weekend coming, we all might need reminding to honor and reward ourselves and others a bit for our labor…for which the  holiday was intended.

For those who have time off this weekend….for those who are in jobs that require them to work this weekend…and for those who are unemployed, looking for work, and doing the hard job of keeping their faith and spirits up while doing so…I wish you all a time of personal rest, retreat, and nurturing, whether this weekend or soon in the future.  I honor you on this Labor Day.

Article: Making Time for Retreat: The "Good Person" Syndrome

Long ago and far away (I love that phrase, it has nothing to do with this article really :) ), I read an article in which a woman talked of a 10-day retreat. As she spoke of her days of being pampered, going within, and exploring what she really wanted to do in life, I became totally envious. Her experience felt so luxurious. Why? This woman was claiming her right to relax and to have a rich inner life. And it's something most of us find hard to do.

We know that it's good to take time for ourselves. We try to have inner lives. But unfortunately, we live in a society that basically expects us to go go go. So I'm not surprised that when I suggest to a stressed out, anxious client that they need to take a break, they quickly answer "I have no time," "I just can't leave work right now", or version 100 of "my family/husband/mother needs me".

But when will there be time? If we don't put our own self care, and the care of our souls as top priority, how can we expect to continually have energy for others?

In order to have a long-term base of energy, we need time to rest from the stressors of life, to nurture ourselves. We need to acknowledge that we aren't robots who can continue clicking away in the same routine, with the same amount of energy every day (high and intense, of course) for years on end.

We also need time to rejoice in the wonderful things that we've created; to be grateful for the the things we've done. Appreciating where we've been, and the gifts we have will form a wonderful based for knowing what the next steps can be in our lives.

While most of us wouldn't expect to start a new business without taking some time to define what it is that we intend to do, we often expect ourselves to live our lives with little time to explore our essence and the path we want to take.

If we're to live our Truth, become who we want to be, and create lives that truly benefit others,  we must have time to discover who we are. We need time to see what's keeping us from being our ultimate selves, what isn't working in our lives, and what to do next.  

A few years ago, I was very much in need of a retreat. I had been through a series of life changing events, and looking back, can see that I was obviously experiencing a major shift in my life. I couldn't acknowledge it though. Through crisis after crisis, I thought that if I just kept on working and persevering, toughing out the hard stuff, that this phase would soon be through.  I could then get back to my "normal" life. I didn't realize my "normal" life was over.

I look at that time and ask myself why I didn't stop to take a break. Finances, of course. Or so I told myself. How could I justify "taking time off" when I needed to bring in new clients, pay for home repairs, and replace my stolen car?

Of course these things were important. But there was something deeper at work, something else that was keeping me from taking time for myself, from stepping out and living a life of Truth.

It was called the "good person syndrome."  

In the "good person syndrome," the outer world takes priority. We make decisions based on what we've always been rewarded for being: "good." And being good usually involves living like everyone around us.  It leaves little permission for us to connect with our inner lives, find our true desires, and then test out what we really believe is our unique way to contribute to the world.

Do you have the "good person syndrome"? Check and see if the following (faulty) unconscious personal rules may be why you, too, find it hard to make time for retreat:  

1.    Your life goals should not be based on happiness. Concepts like life purpose and soul satisfaction are for wimps and new-agers. You have a "station" in life, and it's wasteful dreaming to strive for anything better. Having a job and being able to pay the bills is the most you could ask for. You should be grateful; expecting more from life is frivolous.

2.    Happiness comes from fulfilling your life's role. And you should stick to only one role. Don't have a lot of different interests, it's confusing and defines you as a flake. Oh, and by the way, don't think you can choose your role. Do what is "right": what your parents, friends, and neighbors approve of. (Breadwinner role is the ultimate.)

3.    You should always make everyone else happy first. You can do things for yourself only in the time left over (but of course, there's rarely time left over.)  Claiming the right to nurture yourself or question what you really want in life is selfish.

4.    Making a living and having money is the highest priority, regardless of whether it wears you out physically, or erases your spirit. Even if you're having an emotional break-down or heading for major illness, you must persevere.

Have you believed these things? Can you see how they would stop you? After years of being rewarded by living them (what a good person you are!) no wonder your people pleaser rebels when you think of taking time for yourself.

So how "good" are you? Is it time to be "bad" and take a break?

I think it's time to examine your need to be "good." Where does it serve you? When is it knee-jerk, and not really helping anyone? Are you protecting and conserving your energy so you can take care of those you love, or are you letting it leak (or gush) out leaving you weak and cranky?

It's time for personal reflection, nurturing, & self-discovery. Whether it's in the form of just 5 minutes' meditation, an interesting class, energy work, or a nurturing retreat, plan for your relaxation & rejuvenation.

Reflect on your reasons for putting this off. Give that programmed self a holiday. And begin to create a new way of being "good," releasing your unique spirit, talents, and the love you have inside.

Take a retreat…take time to be "bad." Can you find the time?

“I wish that for you too…”

Posted March 19th, 2010 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration, Making Life Changes, Photography, Images

"Aquinnah" Martha's Vineyard, Massachusetts

"Aquinnah" Martha's Vineyard, Massachusetts

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 "Yes. I wish that for you too…"

I was updating a friend the other day on the wonderful things that have come my way in the last few months…miracles, many of them…and feeling very grateful and appreciative.

At one point in the conversation, however, I said, “I still wish….” and mentioned a long-held desire that I’ve had, and still would like to see take place.

“Hey, don’t push it!” my friend admonished me. “Seems like you have a pretty good deal now.”

Wow! In a flash, my heart sank. All kinds of judgment whizzed through: I’m an ungrateful person, I’m a selfish person, I should appreciate more what I have, what I have is enough and I should be happy. My “good girl, high achiever” felt bad, like she had just gotten an “F” in how to have the right attitude about life.

We moved on to other things, and the feeling quickly shifted, but it kept popping up in my mind every once in a while over the next few days. Now I felt anger at my friend: How dare he tell me that I can’t have more dreams! Is there a limit to how many good things can happen to us in our lives?!

I fantasized about calling him back and pointing out all of the good things he has in his life, reminding him that he has also shared with me his unhappy days and  wishes for other aspects of his life to improve….so why was he limiting me?

OK, I know you've experienced this too. Something happens, you know it's a small thing, but you can't let go of it…and before you know, it's become a huge drama in your head. Would you have called? No probably not, since most of us are chicken to have that kind of conversation :)

And did I call? No. Because I knew it wasn’t necessary.

From my psychotherapy and yogic philosophies, I know that comments and suggestions that our friends and others make are often a reflection of their reality, their projections. I'm free to accept them as my truth or not.

And if don't want to accept  my friend’s perspective about life and how one should respond, I don't have to. I can just move on, knowing my way of living (or dreaming) is fine.

Any discomfort or anger that I'm feeling is a reflection of my own issues. I would do better to spend my time working with them, rather than pinning it on my friend.

Uh….Right. But we all know that’s sometimes easier said than done. And this exchange seemed to be staying with me. So I asked myself a simple question I've posed when friends and clients have been unhappy with a conversation they've had, and can't seem to let go of it.

"What," I asked myself, "did you want him to say?

And my answer is: “I wish that for you too.”

I know my friend’s comment to me was meant to be practical, and in its own way, loving and supportive. “Slow down, smell the roses” was actually what he meant, “don’t be making yourself unhappy with things that aren’t there, when good things are right in front of you.”

But I know that. And I wasn’t saying that I was miserable. I had already expressed my great joy at the many gifts I have received.

But I still have dreams. And I realize now I was looking for a fellow dreamer, another cheerleader on the path. Someone who understood the vast potential of life, and could join me with “Yes, this is really great! And more great things are ahead! The ones that you’ve always wanted are still possible!”

“Yes. I wish that for you too.”

When others share their life circumstances, especially when they’re facing challenges, feeling fearful, and not quite sure of the outcomes, our tendency is to help them feel better by pointing out all of the good things in their life. This has its place, but often our friends have already done that exercise. They need support in looking ahead with hope; to know that their life visions have not been dashed forever.

Even the person who seems to have it all wants to feel that more of their personal dreams can still come true.

And even though there are times that we find ourselves being judgmental (yes, admit it!)…having our own opinions about what people should be satisfied with and how they should live… ultimately we want our friends and loved ones to be happy, whatever the circumstances.

So I have a suggestion for us all this week.

Listen when someone is telling you about their life. As they share the ups and downs, what’s bringing them pleasure, what they wish weren’t happening…resist the tendency to  feel like you need to bring them down to earth, be practical, point out what they should be happy about.

Listen for their dream, even if it seems to you to be the wildest, most unattainable fantasy that ever existed.

And when you hear that dream, or maybe not even a dream, but what sounds like just a casual statement of desire for something in life (people test you with the little things first), try saying, truly meaning it:

“Yes. I wish that for you too.”

You'll be surprised at the power your statement will have.
I wish for you the enjoyment of seeing a loved one feel your love, absorb your support, and  glow with the happiness and hope  you've inspired.

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P.S:

I know, you’re curious. What do I still wish? (Hint: The picture that accompanies this article.) OK, I’ll tell: “I still wish…to live by the sea.”

To those who love granting wishes: I gratefully accept! :)Send me your solutions! (or send me "I wish that for you too" :)

P.P.S: An Invitation:

Share your wishes with me! Send me an email…

I’ll be happy to give you the pleasure of feeling that happy feeling inside as I respond with “Yes. I wish that for you too.”

All My Mistakes Have Become Masterpieces…

Posted January 31st, 2010 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration, Making Life Changes, Photography, Images

Wow, just heard this song this afternoon on the radio and loved the lyrics!
Had to share the lyrics, and some thoughts…
(Lyrics, artist, and radio links below)
 
"All My Mistakes Have Become Masterpieces."

Hmmm…How would it change things if you entertained the thought that what you perceive as mistakes are actually the beginning of masterpieces?

On those days when you're looking at your photography, discouraged or frustrated, feeling like you've lost your touch or can't seem to get the image on paper to be what you see in your head…

Or when you feel stuck in your life, looking back at where you might have made different decisions…

What if those "mistakes" were actually what got you to a whole new reality, that wouldn't have ever happened if you didn't make them?

You stumble on a new way of printing things, and a look that appeals to you and is unique…because you couldn't get the traditional color that you usually expect to see…

You meet a new person that ends up inspiring, energizing, and opening up new opportunities for you, because you, discouraged, drowned your sorrows at a coffee house after missing an ad for a job that you were certain would have solved your life problems…

The next time you make a "mistake," or find yourself discouraged and listing all of the missteps you've taken in your life, try telling yourself a version of your life story that paints the future as masterpiece, rather than a disaster.

Remember the times that you thought you had blown it…and then good things happened that couldn't have if you had continued in the same way.
 
Actually, I think just living your life as best you can, staying in the game in a positive manner…that alone is a masterpiece! Surrendering, staying in the moment, maintaining hope, acting on your inner truth…yes, there is no mistake there.

Mistakes do become masterpieces. It can happen. It does happen.

Let it.
 
Heidi
 
OK, the great lyrics:


"All my mistakes have become masterpieces"

Who is to say who wins or who loses
I sing to myself at the end of the day
When I know what the blues is
All my mistakes have become masterpieces

I was born in the goodness of grace
Because of faith, because of courage
Because of forgiveness
All my mistakes have become masterpieces

There comes a time
You must stay in the moment
While your heart's still bleeding

There comes a time
When you must walk away
Though your heart's still beating

Who is to say who wins or who loses
I sing to myself at the end of the day
When I know what the blues is
All my mistakes have become masterpieces

 —– Teitur, from the CD Stay Under the Stars
Heard on KCRW Eclectic24 a radio station out of Santa Monica, California. You can stream it on your computer! Enjoy…  

Take the Top Off Your Convertible!

Posted April 19th, 2009 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration

I took the top off my convertible last weekend.
And the earth moved.

Yes, yes, thank you, all of you jokesters for your insight: The earth only appeared to be moving as I zipped along at 70 mph up Texas Highway 290, on my way to see the bluebonnets. Everyone knows it was really the car that was moving.

But of course I'm not talking about the earth or the car.  As you might expect, I'm describing an inner experience: a major shift in my spirit and body.

The top off my convertible, my car flying down the road, I glowed with happiness and light, feeling a blast of freedom, potential, and reconnection to the joy of life.

The experience was so simple, so easy, and felt so good.

"Why," I asked myself, hair flying, heart uplifted, happily gunning my car and feeling its power, "did it take me so long to do this?!"

It had been five years since I took the top off my convertible. And from a practical perspective, I know what took me so long.

I have a 1978, two-seater Mercedes, which in winter looks like a normal classic car with a hard top.  But what many don't know is this: Lift off the hard top and voila! Instant convertible.

The problem is the hidden challenge:  The top is very heavy, requires two people to lift it, and needs a garage or other secure place to store it. Which, for a person who has lived in more than 18 places over the last 5 years, hasn't allowed for much top popping.

Except…Except…blame it on some comments after a session with my spiritual healer and massage therapist friend:

Her statement:  "Hmm, it appears that "You have it all right now."

The translation: (A basic teaching of many spiritual practices) "You have everything you need to be happy right now, in your current circumstances, whatever they may be."

My thoughts as I drove home: If I really believed that, how would that change my life? How might I be limiting my life right now, without even realizing it?

And then the invitation came from a fellow member of my photography group: To come to her ranch in the countryside and enjoy and photograph the sea of bluebonnet fields that are stunning in Texas at spring time.

I flashed on a memory of the first time I saw Texas bluebonnets. A  friend surprised me by picking me up in his little Triumph convertible, the top down.

 "You must see bluebonnet country in a convertible," he said. "There's nothing like the sight, and smell, and pure sensuousness of the experience." (He was right.)

I had to live that ultimate bluebonnet experience again. And here I was with a convertible! Almost forgotten, overshadowed by more recent identities as  mini-moving van, New Mexico touring car, and ongoing restoration project, I knew there was still a convertible in the heart of that car.

I thought of my friend's comment.  Hmm, all I needed was right here. OK, then all I had to do was find the other supportive pieces: someone to help me take the top off, and a place to store it.

No problem about finding someone to help me; I had done that before pretty easily.  It was the  "no place to store it" belief that usually stopped me cold.

This time, however,  I intensely wanted my convertible in the bluebonnets experience. I forced myself to push harder, challenge my belief a bit more. What other options did I have?

I thought about a friend's pool room. I considered my mechanic's place. I entertained the idea of asking my neighbor, who used his second bedroom as a storage room.

Running through ideas, and feeling my hesitation, I realized that it wasn't just the lack of a storage place that had stopped me before. I was also uncomfortable asking for a favor, possibly imposing on someone who could provide that for me.

But  the day was too beautiful, the urge for freedom too strong.  And after all, what are friends for?

I picked up the phone and called a friend with a garage. He said yes immediately.

I was overjoyed…and amazed. Were the joys of life really this simple?

So last weekend you would have seen me on the perfect day, ecstatically zooming along the highway (more leisurely on back roads :) , the sun and air on my skin, filled with the feeling of release and freedom that every convertible and fast car lover understands.

I'm happy to report that I experienced fields and fields of bluebonnets, set my photographer soul free, and ended the perfect day with a beautiful sunset and an evening of food and wine with my wonderful hosts and photographer friends.

And now I'm intrigued.

What other beliefs in my life might be keeping me from enjoying the here and now? What else do I have that I'm not taking advantage of?

"Take the top off! Drive on, girl", I say.

© 2009 Heidi L. Straube, M.Ed., LPC

 Go here for bluebonnet pictures…enjoy!

What if You’re Not Thrilled About Valentine’s Day?

Posted February 9th, 2009 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration

(Happy Valentine’s Week to all!..Here are some thoughts about Valentine's Day)

Many people aren’t crazy about Valentine’s Day. I have a friend who gets grouchy every year at this time.

“Why should I have to prove my love to someone on one specific day,” my friend asks, “when I show that love to them all year?”

I like Valentine's Day, but I think they do have a point. Sometimes there’s too much pressure on this day.

One person, the romantic, wants their partner to bring them the perfect gift, treat them like a queen,  be ultra romantic.

What if you’re not in the mood? What if you’re broke? Should the test of your love be dependent on one day of doing the “right” thing?

And the romantic also gets confused. Loving to celebrate and be generous, they like to do something special for the ones they love. But when they do, sometimes  the object of their affection (like my friend) gets irritated, resists the gift giving, and doesn't actively rejoice in the form in which the love is being offered.

And that's just couples.

Those who don't have a sweetheart face another kind of pressure. "What is wrong with me," they may ask, "that I don't have someone dying to treat me to a special evening?"

Wow, what a lot of emotional drama for one day in the year.

Of course, not everyone is feeling this way. There are plenty of people who love Valentine's Day, and delight in the opportunity to show their love and affection for lovers, partners, and friends (not necessarily all three at once, of course Cool) And that's how it should be, a tribute to the spirit of the legendary St. Valentine, who some say believed in love so strongly that he performed marriages for others even at the risk of death.

(Note: I, myself do not want to be misunderstood and labeled as the bah humbug of Valentine's Day. I love that loving feeling, so if you were counting on treating me like a princess on Valentine's Day or any other day, please don't stop now! Read #2, about being able to receive love…yes! yes! I'll take it !Kiss But I digress, there are still some good thoughts here, whether you like Valentine's Day or not…ahem, Please continue…)

Whether you're for or against, you're going to run into someone who's going to remind you that Saturday is Valentine's Day (like me). So how about if we just skip the whole dynamic of proving anything, or resisting anything, and go to some simple action.  Let’s let the day be a lovely reminder of three things to ask ourselves:

1.     Am I expressing the love I feel for others?

     If you love someone, wouldn't it be nice for them to know it?  This doesn’t have to be through daily verbal “I love you”,  although if your loved one responds most to words, you might want to consider it. But there are many ways to express love, through actions, words, and unspoken but deeply felt and expressed connection. 

 2.     Am I allowing others to express their love for me?

     You may not realize it, but if you’re shutting down or refusing the generosity of others, you’re diminishing the amount of energy that they are able to express in other areas of their lives. As you allow others to give to you, their energy expands. After giving to you, they'll ride on that good feeling and open their hearts in many other ways. You won’t be the only person to benefit;  that person and the whole world will benefit.

3.     Am I actively loving myself?

     This may be the most important question for you. Many of us forget that if we are taking care of ourselves, and truly respecting and treating ourselves with love, that our hearts will naturally open more. With more open and relaxed hearts,  we’ll be more easily loving others, and creating the life that we all really want to live.

 What are the basics of loving yourself? Taking care of your body, mind, and soul.

Which have you been neglecting?

As you share your love with others, don't forget yourself.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you.

However you choose to mark the day, whether you celebrate it or ignore it, may you feel the love that is being offered to you every day.

And may that love expand tenfold within you, allowing you to easily and generously enjoy passing it along.

(P.S.Still feeling grouchy?  No pressure from me, but I have special rates on Soul Whispers sessions this month. If you've been wanting to treat yourself or someone else to something special,  this is something relaxing, luxurious, and different.  Go here for more info…)

Life Lessons from Photography #1: Detach from Expectations and Assume the Positive

Posted February 2nd, 2009 by Heidi Straube
Categories: Inspiration, Photography, Images

I've learned a lot from being a photographer, and from doing many photo shoots…so I thought I'd share some of my discoveries with you! Here's the start of a new series, found here and on my new, "Inner Path of Photograhy" blog (click here) .

This series is for everyone, photographer or not, for the process of photography parallels what happens in the rest of our lives.

Go ahead! Read and see for yourself…

Photo Life Lessons #1:

Detach from Expectations and Assume the Positive.

 I was laughing the other day with a long-time photography client, as we recalled a photo shoot some years back when her 6 year old daughter refused to participate.

The mother had excitedly shared her vision for the shoot. It was wonderful: her daughter, dressed in a lovely velvet dress, looking angelic and innocent, sitting on the curving front stairs. The light from the staircase window would be magical, spilling over her face and shoulders like a Vermeer painting.

I too, was looking forward to this shoot. I loved this family and shooting at this home, the light of day was perfect, and (until it was time to put on the dress) all was unfolding right on time.  I had my own pleasing vision of amazing and delighting both my client and myself by capturing the beauty and spirits of her child.

It wasn't going to happen. At least not in the way that had been planned.

After a half hour of the mother's pleading, enticing, commanding, and bribing, and my own reassurance and encouragement falling on stubborn, deaf ears, the best we could do was to get the little girl to put on jeans and a t-shirt and go out in the back yard. We surrendered to a totally different dream: hoping that she'd at least hold out long enough for pictures on the slide with the family dog.

Having found the right leverage (a mother's talent: a birthday party to attend that afternoon…or not) we took the shoot from there and eventually all ended up having fun. I got great informal images of children and dogs playing together. But here's what we were laughing about with pleasure:

From the photos we shot that day, one ended up being one of my client's favorite photos of all time.

The shoot that initially was not at all what we had in mind, and could have been perceived as disappointing, challenging, and inevitably headed for disaster, had resulted in the gift of an image that was vibrant, unique, and a wonderful reflection of this child's joy and exuberant personality at that age.

We had detached from expectations, assumed the positive, and been given the gift of the unexpected.

Of course we both agreed that it still would have been nice to get the classic Vermeer lighted photo in the window (OK, I confess, we didn't give up; we did attain that vision this year :) But as beautiful as that image is, that day we ended up capturing something else unique and special. The mother has a wonderful photo that will tug at her heartstrings and give her pleasure for many years from now.

There was bittersweet laughter shared the other day as well. A photo shoot that seemed such an important event at the time became totally silly to have worried about, given some life threatening challenges that appeared soon after. It was nice to affirm that all is well, and mother and daughter are both here to continue the relationship dance.

Sometimes things don't go the way we want or expect them to.

Sometimes they actually come out in a way that both surprises and pleases us.

 And too often we realize later that we wasted a lot of time and energy being attached to our vision, being afraid of change, and expecting the worst because things weren't going the way we expected.

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So…the lesson applied…to photography…

As a photographer, I've learned not to stress out when the original idea for a photo shoot isn't attainable. I stay flexible, look for other opportunities, and reassure my clients that no matter what, we'll get something they like. I enjoy the adventure of the unknown, and hold the positive expectation that the outcome will be good and reflect the spirit intended. And marvelous things happen.

I also know that one shoot does not define the lives of anyone. I keep things in perspective, and enjoy the good things that are happening right now.

Photographers: Relax, be flexible, and let things flow. Expect positive and unknown results. And know that if it's not the perfect shoot, lives don't depend on it.

And to our lives…Consider this…

What if you could remember that disruptions to your plans are not always bad?

 (Wouldn't it be nice?)

What if, faced with the unexpected, you anticipated good surprises, and were able to drop your worrying?

(Wouldn't it feel great?)

I'm not minimizing the fact that you encounter serious things in life. Losing a job, for example, or experiencing money, health or relationship challenges definitely affects your life in very tangible ways.

But your attitude of dealing with those challenges, and your ability to maintain hope for the unknown future can make a big difference. You make better decisions when you're relaxed, anticipating the best, and not worrying. Solutions to challenges come from positive expectations, not when you're frozen with fear and foreboding.

Try playing with this today:

Each time that something happens that disappoints, frustrates, or angers you, stop and ask yourself:  

"Is this as big as it seems? And what if this is leading to a good thing?"

And imagine that you're living a year from now, and all has been resolved.

Question the seriousness. Feel the release of expectation. And try to believe in the possibility of the positive. Notice how your heart and body shift. Let yourself relax, in body and mind.

Break the pattern of assuming that all unmet expectations are automatically "bad", and are just more evidence that your life is going downhill.

I know: For some of you, this will be difficult and may feel unreal or silly. Your practical mind says, "Very nice fantasy, but the situation and problems still remain!"

But what if it were true?

What if all this really will have changed by a year from now, and you've wasted time being miserable?

Isn't it more pleasurable to assume that this is a bump in the road (however large) and that good things will still happen?

Of course, still take the steps to address your challenges…but retain your hope and confidence in positive outcomes.

Try it. Play lightly.

 Detach from expectations, and assume a positive future.

Continue to watch for the positive aspects of the unknown, and allow them into your life.

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P.S. Want to be a master? Try working with this image:

A year from now, you look back, and things are even better than you can ever have imagined. Your life has been a miracle.

See how your body relaxes then!

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How did this work for you? Let me know! Send feedback, questions and comments to hs@heidistraube.com, or leave your comments on this blog.

I'll be writing follow-up articles based on what people need. I want to hear how your life is going, what works, and what doesn't, and find more ways that I can help.

With intentions for less stress, more happiness,

Heidi